Dominar

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I am both dark and light, sane and mad, emotional and stoic. A dichotomous individual who focuses on reality more than fantasy, and turn fantasy into reality. It is clear that the strong hand (and mind) is what is desire by most submissives and all slaves. Their willfulness, independence and freedom ripped from them in cruel and imaginative manner. Psychology places a major part of this as the mind is the true playground of most dominants. A real Dominant is not so foolish to believe that any chain, contract or mere words will bind any person. A good master ensnares the mind enslaving the spirit with invisible bonds that are far stronger than the chains and ropes used to constrain. In fact the slave is ultimately the one who enslave themselves to one whose will is such that they have no other choice, and deserving of the slave’s submission. It is the eagerness to learn and serve that will ultimately bind. In the end is not such a choice but rather simply that no other choice is possible; if the "Master" is truly dominant...

This Dominant is not so much sadist as very focused and totally without mercy. The belief is that punishment is necessary to correct attitudes and used to stimulate the responses sought in subjects owned. Dominar does not view slaves as romantic items, but as animals to be trained, used and forced to do his bidding, and if failing that ... attitudes must be corrected. This Dominant will see slaves progress to near human status if they earn the right and desire this but otherwise are mere objects for the entertainment of his friends and self.

I live this lifestyle and would expect the same from my property. This means that the lifestyle is more than just sex and a little butt slapping. It is a whole communion of experiences and essential growth that in the end frees the slave of many of their burdens or restrictions.

My long term goal is the possession of new BDSM slaves, the previous property has returned home for family reasons after years of service.
I'm serious and train all my slaves as pets first, for a total obedience experience. I one slave always to accompany me as companion for business trips (last year at 20 different locations) and appear as a protégé in the vanilla world and my whore in private or fetish settings. This role finds respectability, appearance, poise and culture as musts.
I do not expect assets to work, but support their needs in a cozy fashion. I believe that property need to be equally spoiled and punished so they experience what is necessary to keep them in a state of balance. I need assets with no or the minimum of limits, and who accept that I have sadistic tendencies.
I enjoy humiliating my subjects in public and private forums related to lifestyle (eg, munches, fetish balls (12 of which I attended last year)) and tend to have equally available and valuable to a few friends.
Oh and yes, that would mean leaving comfort and security of your home to move to Nordrhein-Westfalia in Germany for term of your submission.

A true sub want freedom from the burden of decisions and having responsibility for themselves and willing surrenders themselves to their Dominant so that that responsibility passes to them Imagine if you will for moment... not having to worry about anything, not feeling the need to decide even what you will wear, eat or how you will interact with someone else. Your activities decided and catalogued for you... is that NOT freedom. In a nutshell it has NOTHING to do with sex, and everything to do with control, and the essence of loosing ones self in the will of another person.

I have found in ALL and I mean all of my real-life relationships it has happened and the slave becomes most at peace when they do not have to make decisions. Many times they even loose to the ability to make decisions on even the simplest things... I had one slave who when put in to a position to make a decision would take hours and not mere seconds to decide. Always questioning herself and in the she always made the choice that she thought I would make if I were deciding. Submission is largely a mental as opposed to physical process. What occurs is the removal of choice, more so the removal of the desire for choice. Abuse that comes from mental torment more than physical causes a situation where the subject (you) begin to question your own reasoning.

The struggle to free yourself from the very nature of deciding so that in effect your submission becomes an act of kindness you receive from your Dominar. The use of punishment, and pain is as much a sexual precursor as an event unto itself. It is necessary to instil the total submission and control and measure the limits a slave will surrender to their Dominar. This begins the process of weaning you of the need to think, reason or even make intelligent choices. The permanent marring of a body is for amateurs and not truly dominant spirits, it also cause a physical mark which hampers the image of a perfect slave. Know that I exclude marks of ownership (such as brands) or those of beautification (tattoos) which are essential adornments for the true slave.

The supplanting of your desires and will is a necessary act so that in the end the exhaustion is mental, emotional and spiritual. Submission becomes the final release and the ability merely to avoid thinking or deciding is a pleasure. This does not happen over night but takes weeks of conditioning, constant training, emotional torment and in the end the mind simply falls away leaving only a blank slate to be written upon. Bonds of iron and leather can only restrain, never truly capture. Yet are essential in maintaining the illusion of a total loss of control.

Pain becomes an instrument of oppression and conversion and activities to enhance experiences. Many people struggle and find freedom in the simplest of prisons, but true dominance comes when the prison has no bars but those your mind imposes upon you through the will of your Dominar. And yet in physical bondage comes the freedom of know resistance is futile and slowly the willingness to become what your Dominar wishes of you takes hold... the first major threshold to becoming a truly devoted slave. Only when the image of self and purpose has waned can truly submissive person supplant the intellect needed to become a true slave. Pain is a stimulus to correct, a reward to please and tool to make the slave eager for the sexual use.

The physical transformation is in fact a simple manifestation of the projected image your Dominar wishes to portray to the world. You become an object, of pleasure or image and of desire, and a source for the release of pent up frustration. A tool to exercise the demons which plague your Dominar. It is at this point the decision of dress, appearance and even make up become those of your Dominar. Speech lessons, poise and carriage is taught transforming you into the SLAVE / SLUT a DOMINAR can be PROUD to OWN.